Cause and Effect Essay 2-First Draft

Cause and Effect Essay 2-First Draft

23.04.2014

Melike Büşra SAĞIR

Effects of Depression

 Depression is a common mental disorder whose root varies person to person. It occurs depending on the experiences of individuals which can be about their relationship, social environment or anything else triggering it, and it causes them feelings of sadness. Coping with depression is very difficult for both themselves and their families because it is not easy to overcome. It may be also difficult to understand whether you're depressed or not; however, it is obvious that there are some effects of depression which can be alcohol and substance abuse, problems at work or school and loneliness on their lives.

 First, alcohol and substance abuse are prevalent among people who are suffering with depression. It gives temporarily a feeling of relief from state of mind brought about by depression; therefore, people with depression tend to overuse them. Inasmuch as they feel better using those substances, they continue to repeat that behavior. In view of much more repetitions, they cannot get out of control not coping with their self-control and they are increasingly addicted to them. Thus, they should see the doctor in order to be implemented the treatment required and to get rid of those illegal drugs in a short time.

 Second, problems at work or school are another effect of depression. They can have frequently loss of self-confidence and self-esteem on account of the fact that they think that they do not have enough strength to deal with any other things. Additionally, they can confront sleeping problems as they have difficulty in inability to sleep or waking up much earlier than usual. Therefore, they have loss of productivity at their work or school and they cannot concentrate well on tasks taking too long. Those factors cause people with depression to be lazy and complacent.

 Third, another effect of depression on people’s lives is loneliness. They are not delighted in things that are usually pleasurable or interesting and they stay aloof and reticent for offerings from their friends. Besides, they'd rather sit at home and they go into much more depression because of gloomy feelings. Despite the fact that they sometimes avoid from other people or their close friends, they feel helplessness and hopelessness and need a shoulder to cry on. Since they consider themselves as a killjoy, they can have strong feelings of guilt or worthlessness, sometimes even suicide or death.

 In brief, people have some impacts which are alcohol and substance abuse, problems at work or school and loneliness as a result of depression, which can be quite painful for them. As soon as people realize some medical symptoms such as fatigue or becoming oppressive occurring in them, they need to see the doctor immediately. If they ignore this disorder fabricating an excuse, they cannot have an opportunity to recover from it. 

Cause and Effect Essay 1- Second Draft

Cause and Effect Essay 1- Second Draft    

18.04.2014

Melike Büşra SAĞIR

Causes of Divorce

 In general, one of the most commonly asked questions is what the marriage is about. To me, marriage is a combination of desert and water. Even if both of them seem like the opposite, it is longing for the two souls as if they were thirsty each other. However, if water is too much, it makes desert into a marsh and if desert is too much, it makes water dry. Only if it is in a balance, desert and water makes sense. Actually, what is essential in marriage is balance. There must be a balance in love, respect and sharing. But unfortunately, an eternal coexistence cannot be provided because of various reasons and a significant number of marriages results in separation. Basically, there are three causes of divorce: laziness, lack of communication skills and high expectations.

 One reason of divorce is laziness which is the situation that spouses cannot fulfill their responsibilities. For example, there is irresponsibility if the other cannot provide financial support or carry on a job although one of the spouses works many hours a week trying to make a good life for them. This situation reveals the inequality and incompatibility between the spouses. They can apply for divorce because they do not want to lead a life with a lazy spouse who hates children, never cleans the house and does not even take a bath.

 Another reason of divorce is lack of communication skills, which can lead to distance and frigidity between spouses. For instance, they probably want to divorce when they do not devote enough time to each other due to a workaholic spouse. When they are not shown interest by their wife or husband, they take offence and prefer to be at arm’s length. Additionally, spouses put so much effort expressing their feelings bluntly as they don’t know how to talk and how to listen each other. Sometimes, they avoid from conversation in case it might cause them or their spouse pain. They cannot overcome marital problems and hence evade applying for divorce.

 Another reason of divorce is high expectations what to suppose from a marriage. Marital expectations are usually far from the reality of what life is in marriage. Since people differ from each other in terms of their characteristic features and hence expectations from the marriage, it comes about a lot of different desires which can be expectations of more devotion and concession or sexual expectations. Besides, communication has a large role in solving this marital problem. If they tell or ask their spouse what to expect from the marriage in advance, they are not disappointed with an unexpected condition after the marriage.

 In conclusion, that you're happy or unhappy in your marriage as to whether you will get married or not is dependent on the choices you make. Love and respect will not be asked; you can just create them. Only if the desert loves, it can be loved; only if the desert is esteemed, it can be respected. The same values are also acceptable for the water. Is that too difficult to live the current time best emphasizing the fact that it cannot be repeat of today's and to maintain our lives knowing the significance of the present value?

OUTLINE

Thesis Statement:  Basically, there are three causes of divorce: laziness, lack of communication skills and high expectations.

A.     Laziness

1.      Not to provide financial support

2.      Inequality and incompatibility between the spouses

B.     Lack of communication skills

1.      Having a workaholic spouse

2.      Putting so much effort expressing their feelings clearly

C.     High expectations

1.      Marital expectations being far from the real life

2.      Having different desires

 Conclusion: Is that too difficult to live the current time best emphasizing the fact that it cannot be repeat of today's and to maintain our lives knowing the significance of the present value?

Cause and Effet Essay 1- First Draft

Cause and Effect Essay 1- First Draft    

16.04.2014

Melike Büşra SAĞIR

Causes of Divorce

 In general, one of the most commonly asked questions is what the marriage is about. To me, marriage is a combination of desert and water. Even if both of them seems like opposite, it is longing for two souls as if they were thirsty each other. However, if water is too much, it makes desert into a marsh and if desert is too much, it makes water dried. Only if it is in a balance, desert and water makes sense. Actually, what is essential in marriage is balance. There must be a balance in love, respect and sharing. But unfortunately, an eternal coexistence cannot be provided because of various reasons and a significant number of marriages results in separation. Basically, there are three causes of divorce: laziness, lack of communication skills and high expectations.

 One reason of divorce is laziness which is the situation that spouses cannot fulfill their responsibilities. For example, there is irresponsibility if the other cannot provide financial support or carry on a job although one of the spouses works many hours a week trying to make a good life for them. This situation reveals the inequality and incompatibility between the spouses. They can apply for divorce because they do not want to lead a life with a lazy spouse who hates children, never cleans the house and does not even take a bath.

 Another reason of divorce is lack of communication skills, which can lead to distance and frigidity between spouses. For instance, they probably want to divorce when they do not devote enough time to each other due to a workaholic spouse. When they are not shown interest by their wife or husband, they take offence and prefer to be at arm’s length. Additionally, spouses put so much effort expressing their feelings bluntly as they don’t know how to talk and how to listen each other. Sometimes, they avoid from conversation in case it might cause them or their spouse pain. They cannot overcome marital problems and hence evade applying for divorce.

 Another reason of divorce is high expectations what to suppose from a marriage. Marital expectations are usually far from the reality of what life is in marriage. Since people differ from each other in terms of their characteristic features and hence expectations from the marriage, it comes about a lot of different desires which can be expectations of more devotion and concession or sexual expectations. Besides, communication has a large role in solving this marital problem. If they tell or ask their spouse what to expect from the marriage in advance, they are not disappointed with an unexpected condition after the marriage.

 In conclusion, that you're happy or unhappy in your marriage as to whether you will get married or not is dependent on the choices you make. Love and respect will not be asked; you can just create them. Only if the desert loves, it can be loved; only if the desert is esteemed, it can be respected. The same values are also acceptable for the water. Is that too difficult to live the current time best emphasizing the fact that it cannot be repeat of today's and to maintain our lives knowing the significance of the present value?

OUTLINE

Thesis Statement:  Basically, there are three causes of divorce: laziness, lack of communication skills and high expectations.

A.     Laziness

1.      Not to provide financial support

2.      Inequality and incompatibility between the spouses

B.     Lack of communication skills

1.      Having a workaholic spouse

2.      Putting so much effort expressing their feelings clearly

C.     High expectations

1.      Marital expectations being far from the real life

2.      Having different desires

 Conclusion: Is that too difficult to live the current time best emphasizing the fact that it cannot be repeat of today's and to maintain our lives knowing the significance of the present value?

Division Essay-Second Draft

Division Essay-Second Draft

03.04.2014

Melike Büşra SAĞIR

Ways of Rearing Children

 Having a child is one of the most worth doing and difficult experiences a person can have along his or her life. Although it may seem like as if it was easy to raise children, many people are confused about how to educate them properly in the process of raising. All children are different, so the ways parents use to bring up them differ from each other too. Parenting styles influence on children's character such as success, self-confidence and manners. It should be applied to children being chosen a correct method that helps their developments by parents. Parents can have three different styles on child-rearing: authoritative, permissive and uninvolved.

 One parenting style of child rearing is authoritativeness. Authoritative parents are both strict and sensitive. They not only treat with tenderness and affection toward their children but also set limit about some points. Besides, parents listen to them and try to solve what the problem is if children disobey rules which they create. They support them indulgently when children have a justifiable reason. In fact, this parenting style is considered as one of the most balanced to be used in child rearing. If a child is brought up under these conditions by an authoritative parent, the child can probably have good self-discipline, strong determination and hence great success.

 Another parenting style of child rearing is permissiveness. Permissive parents are a bit more lenient and loosey-goosey with the rules. Thus, they use less punishment. They accept their children’s wishes easily and allow them to do more things. They give their children a lot of compassion and love but not strictness. Additionally, when children share any problem with them, permissive parents approach to them like a friend and they give them freedom to do as they like. Children raised under these conditions cannot stand limits and rules put by the authorities and adapt to such things in social life. Also, they have less self-discipline, and are careless and disobedient in their future lives.

 Another parenting style of child rearing is being uninvolved. Uninvolved parents are the most careless and aloof toward their children; therefore, they do not use any punishment or award. They let them loose to do what they want, and meanwhile they do not constraint for good or bad behaviors under no circumstances. Above all, they deprive their children of family warmth and trust as they do not spend enough time with them. Consequently, the children who are raised by uninvolved parents have lack of self-respect, and are not adaptable and cooperative.

 Briefly, there are three child-rearing styles which are authoritative, permissive and uninvolved as we can see above. Children reared depending on these styles have self-discipline, strong determination, and great success or have less self-confidence, self-respect, achievement. Regardless of which style we see above, what is important is that children should be raised as beneficial individuals for the world. Thus, if we are more attentive, conscious and responsive in the process of raising children, we will have brought up good individuals who can provide peace and security for our generation.

OUTLINE

Thesis Statement: Parents can have three different styles on child-rearing: Authoritative, permissive and uninvolved.

A.      Authoritative parents

1.      Authoritative parents are both tender and restrictive.

2.      They are supportive.

3.      This parenting style is considered as one of the most balanced to be used in child rearing.

B.      Permissive parents

1.      Permissive parents are a bit more lenient and loosey-goosey with the rules.

2.      They use less punishment.

3.      Permissive parents approach to them like a friend and they give them freedom to do as they like.

C.      Uninvolved parents

1.      Uninvolved parents are the most careless and aloof toward their children.

2.      They let them loose to do what they want.

3.      They deprive their children of family warmth and trust.

          Conclusion: If we are more attentive, conscious and responsive in the process of raising children, we will have brought up good individuals who can provide peace and security for our generation.