Division Essay-Second Draft

Division Essay-Second Draft

03.04.2014

Melike Büşra SAĞIR

Ways of Rearing Children

 Having a child is one of the most worth doing and difficult experiences a person can have along his or her life. Although it may seem like as if it was easy to raise children, many people are confused about how to educate them properly in the process of raising. All children are different, so the ways parents use to bring up them differ from each other too. Parenting styles influence on children's character such as success, self-confidence and manners. It should be applied to children being chosen a correct method that helps their developments by parents. Parents can have three different styles on child-rearing: authoritative, permissive and uninvolved.

 One parenting style of child rearing is authoritativeness. Authoritative parents are both strict and sensitive. They not only treat with tenderness and affection toward their children but also set limit about some points. Besides, parents listen to them and try to solve what the problem is if children disobey rules which they create. They support them indulgently when children have a justifiable reason. In fact, this parenting style is considered as one of the most balanced to be used in child rearing. If a child is brought up under these conditions by an authoritative parent, the child can probably have good self-discipline, strong determination and hence great success.

 Another parenting style of child rearing is permissiveness. Permissive parents are a bit more lenient and loosey-goosey with the rules. Thus, they use less punishment. They accept their children’s wishes easily and allow them to do more things. They give their children a lot of compassion and love but not strictness. Additionally, when children share any problem with them, permissive parents approach to them like a friend and they give them freedom to do as they like. Children raised under these conditions cannot stand limits and rules put by the authorities and adapt to such things in social life. Also, they have less self-discipline, and are careless and disobedient in their future lives.

 Another parenting style of child rearing is being uninvolved. Uninvolved parents are the most careless and aloof toward their children; therefore, they do not use any punishment or award. They let them loose to do what they want, and meanwhile they do not constraint for good or bad behaviors under no circumstances. Above all, they deprive their children of family warmth and trust as they do not spend enough time with them. Consequently, the children who are raised by uninvolved parents have lack of self-respect, and are not adaptable and cooperative.

 Briefly, there are three child-rearing styles which are authoritative, permissive and uninvolved as we can see above. Children reared depending on these styles have self-discipline, strong determination, and great success or have less self-confidence, self-respect, achievement. Regardless of which style we see above, what is important is that children should be raised as beneficial individuals for the world. Thus, if we are more attentive, conscious and responsive in the process of raising children, we will have brought up good individuals who can provide peace and security for our generation.

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Thesis Statement: Parents can have three different styles on child-rearing: Authoritative, permissive and uninvolved.

A.      Authoritative parents

1.      Authoritative parents are both tender and restrictive.

2.      They are supportive.

3.      This parenting style is considered as one of the most balanced to be used in child rearing.

B.      Permissive parents

1.      Permissive parents are a bit more lenient and loosey-goosey with the rules.

2.      They use less punishment.

3.      Permissive parents approach to them like a friend and they give them freedom to do as they like.

C.      Uninvolved parents

1.      Uninvolved parents are the most careless and aloof toward their children.

2.      They let them loose to do what they want.

3.      They deprive their children of family warmth and trust.

          Conclusion: If we are more attentive, conscious and responsive in the process of raising children, we will have brought up good individuals who can provide peace and security for our generation.