Cause and Effet Essay 1- First Draft

Cause and Effect Essay 1- First Draft    

16.04.2014

Melike Büşra SAĞIR

Causes of Divorce

 In general, one of the most commonly asked questions is what the marriage is about. To me, marriage is a combination of desert and water. Even if both of them seems like opposite, it is longing for two souls as if they were thirsty each other. However, if water is too much, it makes desert into a marsh and if desert is too much, it makes water dried. Only if it is in a balance, desert and water makes sense. Actually, what is essential in marriage is balance. There must be a balance in love, respect and sharing. But unfortunately, an eternal coexistence cannot be provided because of various reasons and a significant number of marriages results in separation. Basically, there are three causes of divorce: laziness, lack of communication skills and high expectations.

 One reason of divorce is laziness which is the situation that spouses cannot fulfill their responsibilities. For example, there is irresponsibility if the other cannot provide financial support or carry on a job although one of the spouses works many hours a week trying to make a good life for them. This situation reveals the inequality and incompatibility between the spouses. They can apply for divorce because they do not want to lead a life with a lazy spouse who hates children, never cleans the house and does not even take a bath.

 Another reason of divorce is lack of communication skills, which can lead to distance and frigidity between spouses. For instance, they probably want to divorce when they do not devote enough time to each other due to a workaholic spouse. When they are not shown interest by their wife or husband, they take offence and prefer to be at arm’s length. Additionally, spouses put so much effort expressing their feelings bluntly as they don’t know how to talk and how to listen each other. Sometimes, they avoid from conversation in case it might cause them or their spouse pain. They cannot overcome marital problems and hence evade applying for divorce.

 Another reason of divorce is high expectations what to suppose from a marriage. Marital expectations are usually far from the reality of what life is in marriage. Since people differ from each other in terms of their characteristic features and hence expectations from the marriage, it comes about a lot of different desires which can be expectations of more devotion and concession or sexual expectations. Besides, communication has a large role in solving this marital problem. If they tell or ask their spouse what to expect from the marriage in advance, they are not disappointed with an unexpected condition after the marriage.

 In conclusion, that you're happy or unhappy in your marriage as to whether you will get married or not is dependent on the choices you make. Love and respect will not be asked; you can just create them. Only if the desert loves, it can be loved; only if the desert is esteemed, it can be respected. The same values are also acceptable for the water. Is that too difficult to live the current time best emphasizing the fact that it cannot be repeat of today's and to maintain our lives knowing the significance of the present value?

OUTLINE

Thesis Statement:  Basically, there are three causes of divorce: laziness, lack of communication skills and high expectations.

A.     Laziness

1.      Not to provide financial support

2.      Inequality and incompatibility between the spouses

B.     Lack of communication skills

1.      Having a workaholic spouse

2.      Putting so much effort expressing their feelings clearly

C.     High expectations

1.      Marital expectations being far from the real life

2.      Having different desires

 Conclusion: Is that too difficult to live the current time best emphasizing the fact that it cannot be repeat of today's and to maintain our lives knowing the significance of the present value?